The problem isn't necessarily the calories it could be the TYPE of calories. Whether you're counting Cheetos or cucumber slices the TYPE of calories you're consuming make ALL the difference when it comes to your health and fitness goals.
The first thing to address when working towards your health and fitness goals is your relationship with food. Your relationship with food should be one that is HEALTHY! And, I don't mean eating like a rabbit and following a strict low carb or paleo diet. Building a positive relationship with food begins with loving your body and understanding that food is fuel. PERIOD. Food DOES and CAN taste good, be satisfying and comforting but bottom line, food FUELS our beautiful, STRONG bodies.